While many brides get excited about their weddings, they don’t think very much about having problems with their bridesmaids. But most bridesmaids do have trouble managing their bridesmaids. Asking your friends to help you with one of the most important days of your life often puts a bit of pressure on your friendship. Knowing how to manage your bridesmaids and still be good to your friends is an important skill every bride should have.

Your bridesmaids are not unpaid personal assistants. Bridal magazines and television shows may joke about Diva Brides but acting too much like a diva is likely to have your bridesmaid in an uproar. Your bridesmaids often have jobs, personal lives, families and other obligations in addition to helping with your wedding. You can’t expect bridesmaids to be at your beck and call.

Choose bridesmaid tasks that compliment each of their skills. Likely you know your bridesmaids well. You know your sister Janice is good with numbers and your friend Nancy is a decorating wizard. Use these abilities when choosing wedding tasks. Don’t put Nancy in charge of calling vendors for pricing information. Put her in charge of visiting florists and picking out the flowers.

Manage your own stress so your bridesmaid relationships are healthy. Your bridesmaids likely want to be there to support and nurture you. But they can’t do it all. The bride who doesn’t sleep properly, eat healthy or take care of herself is doing a great disservice. She’s not taking proper care of herself and expecting others to do the basics for her when she won’t even do them herself.

Hold a “Thank You” event for your bridesmaids. This can be a lunch, brunch or Girls Night Out. Whatever you think your bridesmaids would appreciate and whatever you can budget for. But do something to thank your bridesmaids for their hard work on your wedding. And simply to hang out and have fun. Isn’t that why you chose them to be your bridesmaids?

When it comes to bridesmaid gifts, the key is to choose something that will forever remind your wedding party of their participation in your special day. The options are endless, but putting a lot of thought into finding the right bridesmaids gifts will show your deepest appreciation.

Earrings. If you are looking for the perfect pair of earrings to offer as bridesmaid gifts, the obvious choice may be either genuine gold or silver. One of the most popular designs is the classic ball stud, which can be found very affordably at most retail and/or jewelry stores. Sterling silver ball stud earrings can often be found for as little as $3.00 per pair, while gold ball stud earrings can be found for as little as $6.00 per pair.

Necklace. From the classic pearl to the heartfelt gift of a locket, necklaces are the perfect bridesmaid gifts. Depending on the budget, dainty gold necklaces with a pendant can often be found for less than $20.00 per set. Gold will make terrific bridesmaid gifts because it lasts forever.

Ankle Bracelet. These are popular, stylish and make ideal bridesmaid gifts. This is especially true if you are having a summer wedding and your friends can wear their new gifts with a shimmering summer tan.

Charm Bracelet. One of the most popular of all jewelry designs, bracelets are ideal because the wearer can see and enjoy her jewelry all day. Charm bracelets are especially fun because they can be customized for each bridesmaid with the addition of special charms for each girl.

Perfume. Even the most popular of designer perfumes can be found in small, sample bottles for as little as $6.00 each at many retail stores.

Watch. Perfect for every occasion, the watch is a classic timepiece that is also one of the most popular bridesmaid gifts in existence.

Miniature Purses. Every woman loves a new handbag, which is why miniature purses also make perfect bridesmaid gifts. The best way to customize the gifts is to choose a purse color that also coordinates with your wedding theme for an even more personalized feeling.

Toe Ring. Always adjustable, a toe ring is sure to be the perfect size. Perfect for summertime wear, toe rings will be terrific bridesmaid gifts for a summer wedding.

Pin/Brooch. A fashionable pin is always in style and, when it comes to bridesmaid gifts, popular designs include a heart, flower or other symbol that will serve as a reminder to your wedding.

Rings. If you know the ring size of each bridesmaid, rings will be the perfect gift. Genuine gold rings can often be found for under $20.00, especially if they are in a simple band design. Thin band rings are often available in white, yellow or rose gold and make ideal bridesmaid gifts.