http://www.weddingpartyhelp.com/Articles en-us http://www.weddingpartyhelp.com/Articles N/A dan@weddingpartyhelp.com Sat, 22 Nov 2008 05:38:55 -0600 20 http://www.weddingpartyhelp.com/Articles/articles/139/1/Wedding-Traditions--Why-We-Do-That.html What do you think of when you hear the word "Wedding?" Probably something quite similar to what most other people are thinking – a beautiful bride in white, tossing a lovely bouquet and garter, a scrumptious towering cake . . . So many things are specifically associated with weddings – most of which are based on centuries-old traditions and symbolism. However, traditions have to start somewhere. There had to be a first time that any of these practices took place, and superstition or practicality was usually the underlying reason. Some traditions were originated to keep away the evil spirits: Bridal bouquet - originally made of herbs, such as thyme and garlic, not flowers. The herbs were chosen for their strong smell, with the intent to frighten away evil spirits. Bridesmaids dressing alike - the bride and her ‘maids used to dress similarly to confuse the evil spirits. Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue - originated in England to ward off the evil spirits. Also, honking car horns after a wedding, or tying tin cans to the back of the get-away car were done as the noise scared off the evil spirits.   Other traditions were symbols of fertility: The wedding cake - during the days of the Roman Empire, wheat or barley cakes (more like loaves) were broken over the head of the new bride by her groom symbolizing her fertility. Giving a favor of Italian confetti, or candy-covered almonds - these used to be tossed at the couple representing fertility and good luck. Tossing rice - originated with the ancient Hindus and Chinese to bestow fertility upon the bride and groom, as rice is the symbol of fruitfulness and prosperity in these cultures.   Some traditions remain with a specific culture, rather than having become the norm for American weddings: Indian - The Redenga is an exchange of flower garlands during the ceremony which symbolizes the couple’s acceptance of each other. Egyptian - Women pinch the bride for good luck. Irish - Giving a bell as a gift - the chime of bells is thought to keep evil spirits away, and also remind a couple of their wedding vows. Swedish - the bride puts a silver coin from her father and a gold coin from her mother in each shoe to ensure that she’ll never do without.   Other traditions stem from practicality to serve a specific purpose rather than being based on superstition. Although the practical purpose no longer holds true for todays society, these traditions hold fast:   Why there are there two envelopes with the invitation: Invitations used to be hand delivered by messenger. In transport, the outer envelope would get dirty. When the messenger arrived at the destination, he would discard the outer, soiled envelope, and present the invitation to the recipient in just the inner, clean envelope. Why couples kiss at the end of their ceremony: While many cultures share the more romantic belief that the couple exchanged spirits with their breath and part of their souls were exchanged as they kiss, this tradition actually originated with the Romans who used a kiss to seal a binding contract. Why there is a garter toss: Prior to the 14th century, it was believed that possessing part of the brides garments brought good luck, so people actually tried to tear off pieces of her clothing. The tradition of a "garter toss" started in the 14th century after brides were tired of having to fight off people trying to tear at her clothing. Why brides wear white: Contrary to popular belief, this has nothing to do with purity or virginity. The white wedding gown started with Queen Victoria in 1840. She wanted a dress that was specially for her wedding day, rather than wear one of her "Sunday Best" as was common practice at the time. Her choice of a white satin and lace gown remains the preferred choice of modern brides. If a white gown was good enough for a queen . . . jean@weddingsfromtheheart.net (Jean Neuhart) Fri, 18 Jul 2008 00:00:00 -0500 http://www.weddingpartyhelp.com/Articles/articles/98/1/Tossing-The-Bouquet.html Even though it is a popular tradition recognized at many weddings, tossing the bouquet is a tradition that you can choose to either have or skip at your ceremony. It’s symbolic tradition hints that whomever catches the bouquet will be the next to get married and, even though there are no guarantees, tossing the bouquet is a fun way for one lucky guest to take home a one-of-a-kind keepsake. The tradition of tossing the bouquet began with the ancient belief that good luck herbs were contained inside the arrangement. In an effort to pass her good fortune on to the guests, the bride would present her bouquet to one lucky guest at the end of the ceremony. Today, that belief remains and, for this reason, it is recommended that brides who plan on tossing the bouquet should have a smaller bouquet created especially for this tradition so that they can keep the original. There are several options to consider when tossing the bouquet. Among them, an option that does not involve a toss at all. If there is someone special that you wish to present the bouquet to, simply pull her aside and offer her this special keepsake. Another option of tossing the bouquet is the fake-out. In this scenario, you would select one woman who you wish to catch the bouquet and aim your throw directly to her. Of course, the other option is the fair toss. In this situation, you would simply ask all of your single female friends to gather around you and you blindly toss it into the crowd. Tossing the bouquet is a tradition that can be included in your wedding, but don’t feel as though you have to include it. The beauty of your wedding is that it is YOUR wedding and you can decide which traditions to include and which others you would prefer to skip. If you are planning to have a bouquet designed especially for tossing, you may want to consider using silk flowers so that the woman who catches it will be able to preserve this precious keepsake forever. While fresh flowers are beautiful, sadly they will not last forever. Quality silk flowers, on the other hand, can and will last forever if cared for properly. In addition, they can be arranged to look just as beautiful as the real thing. And best of all, silk flowers are a real blessing for allergy sufferers. dan@weddingpartyhelp.com (Cynthia M.) Sun, 18 Jun 2006 00:00:00 -0500